Re•jec•tion: “the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc” or “the spurning of a person’s affections”
We’ve all felt it before. Whether it had to do with school, friends, significant others, not getting into the school play, or getting a starting position on a sports team, we’ve all encountered rejection at one point or another. All things considered, the type of rejection you may be faced with right now is probably much bigger than an animal not wanting your attention.
You may be faced with rejection from a college.
I’ve been in your shoes. I looked at colleges all over the country and hoped that if I started to love a specific campus they would also love me back and, most importantly, accept me. After I applied to my dream school, I would stay up late at night wondering if they’d seen my application, if they liked me and thought I was interesting, or wanted me at their school. I would incecently refresh my email to see if they’d gotten back to me (even though I knew that the application process took months).
Albion was my dream school then, it is today, and always will be.
I only applied to Albion College. I put my eggs all in one basket and hoped that my dreams would come true, and much to my excitement, they did! Maybe they didn’t for you when you applied to your dream school, and you know what? That’s okay!
Rejection can be a GOOD thing.
Rejection isn’t always what it is made out to be. It’s not an ominous being that haunts you, or a constant sense of belittlement. It only tears us down if we allow it to.
Throughout the college application process, I’m sure you had a long list of places you wanted to apply to. I’m also sure that the list shortened as you went on tours, got your financial aid packages, took distance into account, etc. For one reason or another, you decided those places weren’t for you. What you didn’t realize during this process was that you were rejecting these colleges because you knew they weren’t a good fit for you, and wouldn’t benefit your life journey.
Think of a time where things didn’t go in your favor; when plans fell through with your friends, the person you like didn’t feel the same way, you didn’t get on the basketball team, you failed a test, and so on. What did you do after those things happened? You moved on. You made the best of rejection.
You are the person you are today because of the decisions you made to get accepted, and the ones you made after you were rejected.
That’s why rejection can be a good thing. “No” is one of the best things we can hear in order to help us grow into the version of ourselves that we have dreamed to see. It forces us to take a step back. To slow down. To reevaluate our priorities and move forward in a fresh, and new way.
Just like you rejected schools, schools can reject you. I never said that rejection is easy. It sucks, and it can really hurt. Just know that the pain is temporary. This is a reminder from the world around you that the path you dreamed of may not be the path that’s best for you.
Rejection isn’t a stopping point. It’s a bump in the road, and give us an opportunity to reroute where our dreams will take us.
Everything happens for a reason, even rejection.